It’s as if everyone has something on the back burner these days! 5. Your relationship or “situationship” will be kept at arm’s length, but you know what else is kept at arm’s length? Another girl that he’s been showing interest to on all forms of social media. We all just have to pretend that we aren’t mad when really it’s clear that the guy you are seeing is keeping his options open right in front of you. Millennials want you to be the cool girl who is disconnected, so you can’t actually be mad about something like that, right? Wrong. It’s not actually cheating, although we all know it isn’t exactly innocent either. A guy you are seeing tags another girl in a meme, likes a picture or carries on a back and forth brigade of Snapchat selfies. The lines are blurred these days with all of the underlying meanings out there. When you are used to living your life your own way with no regard for a partner, there is no rush to signing up for the obligations that a defined relationship can impose. It’s almost like having house rules when you come back from college during the holidays to stay with your parents. It’s no surprise that guys freak out the second you question where the relationship is going. As long as that relationship has no real definition, you can pretty much do as you please. You see, while you are in a relationship it is highly frowned upon to like other girls’ pictures on social media, send snap chats to members of the opposite sex, and ditch your girl all weekend to spend time with the boys. When you are held accountable, suddenly any of your questionable side behavior is labeled as cheating. If you try to label the relationship, chances are the guy will head for the hills because relationships with definitions hold people accountable. Rather than define, we will dance around the idea of making anything official. Do not, and I repeat, do not try to define the relationship The goal is to appear to be interested, but not too interested. So, if you are a woman and you send the first text, or even God forbid double-text, you will be labeled as desperate or aggressive.
Everything is written in code that the average mindful person will never be able to understand. This is millennials we’re talking about, people. Or, dare I say it, make plans for a date. To a rational person, if both parties are interested enough to ex- change numbers, it would seem like the next logical step to progression would be texting that person to talk. This is a rule that took me a moment to grasp. You can’t be caught dead sending the first text However, on the flip side, if the aged like is from someone that repulses you, he will immediately be labeled a creep. Insert “jump split” here! There is nothing more rewarding than that. If the liker happens to be someone you are interested in, the person is obviously showing interest back.
“OMG he liked a picture on my Instagram from three months ago!” is something I’ve heard many of my friends say. It is a sure sign that rather than just scrolling through his news feed and casually stumbling on your post, he has made the choice to visit your profile page. Now, if you get a notification that someone has liked a picture from several weeks ago, that shows ma- jor interest and can actually be described as “cyber stalking” if it goes too far.
No, quite the opposite: He just wants to make himself relevant. I mean, let’s be honest, if a guy throws a like at your post, he’s probably not liking the picture because you have some fluffy caption that captivates his soul. Millennials interpret that like as a serious sign of that person showing interest in you. For example, let’s say a guy has been consistently liking the pictures you post on your Instagram page. Social media activity means something more than what it actually meansĪ “like” on an Instagram or Facebook post will more often than not relay some sort of interest in the person posting. I can almost guarantee any single person between the ages of 18 and 30 can relate to the following unspoken rules at least once. If you are still in denial in thinking these rules don’t apply to you, I suggest you read on. Hell, sometimes it’s a game I wasn’t even aware I was playing. For lack of better words, dating in this age can be described as a game. If you are a member of the millennial age group and just so happen to be single, welcome to the tennis match that is about to be your dating life. If you don’t know by now, times have most definitely changed in terms of the dating world.